Caring is winning!

𝗠𝘆 𝟭𝘀𝘁 𝗲𝘅𝗽𝗲𝗿𝗶𝗲𝗻𝗰𝗲 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵 𝗮 𝗵𝗲𝗮𝗱𝗵𝘂𝗻𝘁𝗲𝗿 𝗶𝗻 𝗣𝗮𝗿𝗶𝘀. 

A few years ago, I had an interview with a recruiter from a Talent HR company. 
I had passed the IQ tests and the chat we had afterwards was interesting and friendly. The recruiter even called me a “talent”. Woohooo!!
In my opinion, everything had gone perfectly well…

…Until towards the end of our discussion when the recruiter shared with me a clear discrepancy he had noticed during our conversation: 
the first 30 seconds during which I met him and introduced myself showed me as a 𝗰𝗼𝗹𝗱 𝗽𝗲𝗿𝘀𝗼𝗻 whereas the rest of the interview demonstrated I was actually quite the opposite.

He then asked me if I was aware of that first impression I was offering to people.

𝗜 𝘄𝗮𝘀 𝘀𝗼 𝘀𝗵𝗼𝗰𝗸𝗲𝗱!! 
I knew perfectly that a 1st impression is key to make a good impression on people and I thought I was smiling and “naturally” engaging. 

Clearly, his feedback was not meant to be mean but 𝗜 𝗳𝗲𝗹𝘁 𝗹𝗶𝗸𝗲 𝗵𝗲 𝗵𝗮𝗱 𝗽𝗵𝘆𝘀𝗶𝗰𝗮𝗹𝗹𝘆 𝗵𝗶𝘁 𝗺𝗲. 

Now that I think of it, 𝗜 𝗿𝗲𝗮𝗹𝗶𝘀𝗲 𝗶𝘁 𝘄𝗮𝘀 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗳𝗶𝗿𝘀𝘁 𝘁𝗶𝗺𝗲 𝗜 𝗿𝗲𝗰𝗲𝗶𝘃𝗲𝗱 𝗽𝗿𝗼𝗽𝗲𝗿 𝗰𝗼𝗮𝗰𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴. 
Neither a simple feedback nor an opinion.
It made me realise how much this behaviour that could potentially 𝗶𝗺𝗽𝗮𝗰𝘁 𝗺𝘆 𝗰𝗮𝗿𝗲𝗲𝗿.

𝗜𝘁 𝗵𝗮𝗽𝗽𝗲𝗻𝘀 𝗮𝗹𝗹 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝘁𝗶𝗺𝗲, 𝗷𝘂𝗱𝗴𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗽𝗲𝗼𝗽𝗹𝗲 𝗯𝘆 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗶𝗿 𝗰𝗼𝘃𝗲𝗿 𝗿𝗮𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝗻 𝗯𝘆 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗯𝗼𝗼𝗸 𝗶𝘁𝘀𝗲𝗹𝗳. 

❌ Not everyone is willing to see behind that image we gave of ourselves
❌ Not everyone takes the time to question your behaviour to help you grow in a positive way. 

✅ Forget the spines and remember than even cacti blossom when looked after.

Coaching can help you: 
🌿 Develop self-confidence to make you trust your own ability to assess your team
🌿 Work on your communication style
🌿 Develop your own coaching skills
🌿 Assess and resolve your relationship challenges
🌿 Define and upgrade your conflict management capabilities

As a leader, is it not your duty to know your team, the strength of each of your people, make them progress and bloom?

𝗥𝗲𝗺𝗲𝗺𝗯𝗲𝗿: 𝗮 𝗵𝗮𝗽𝗽𝘆 𝘁𝗲𝗮𝗺 𝗶𝘀 𝗮 𝘄𝗶𝗻𝗻𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗲𝗮𝗺!

If you wonder what you could do better for your team or if you don’t know where and how to start or how to keep on, then let me know.